Friday, February 08, 2019

What to wear, what to wear?

Hi,

A long time ago, on a computer somewhere far, far, away I signed up to a retailer's feedback forum. Surveys and questions come and go with fairly long gaps - not that I mind, I'd rather have something interesting, than noise - and one popped up recently that piqued my interest. Oh, and not to be Mistress of the Obvious, clearly it's a retailer for women's clothes. ;-)

If you'd like to play along at home, here's the questions to cut & paste later on:

  • What would you like to feel when you're getting dressed to go out?
  • Does getting dressed form a key part of the night?
  • Are there any pressures when dressing up?
  • What do you do about deciding what to wear? What does a look for different events - meal out, party night, visiting friends - look like?

Mirror, mirror, in the woods,
Has Lynn Jones, got the goods?
So, here's mine and - as ever, 'cos I'm a nosey mare - I'm interested in how things play out for you, but no pressure if you don't want to join in.

What would you like to feel when you're getting dressed to go out?

I want to feel pretty, confident, and that I am all I can be. I want to feel like I've made the effort, and that that effort has paid off.

Does getting dressed form a key part of the night?

It is a big part of it, yes, but not all. I think it's like a ritual, where it's a warm up to the main event, but the key element of a night out is what I get up to with friends.

Are there any pressures when dressing up?

Oh, where to start! :-) I think the main thing is the pressure of not wanting to get it wrong. By that I mean making a mess of my make-up, my outfit just not feeling right, or even just not quite being with it, if that makes sense.

What do you do about deciding what to wear? What does a look for different events - meal out, party night, visiting friends - look like?

So, deciding, for me, comes down to who I'll be with and where I'll be. This is also affected by how I feel about my body, so yes, mood does come into it. There are days when I'm okay to show my legs a bit - I know, how racy! :-) - and other times I reach for the opaques.

But body issues aside, there's also questions about how long I'll be on my feet, will I be sat down, will there be a lot of walking (or dancing), to what's the temperature going to be like? Do I need a coat?

Whatever the above is, I do sometimes pile everything I think will work on to the bed. Or, if I'm bored at work, I'll run a series of ideas through my head about what might work.

As to different looks, most of my social life - as a trans person - involves Chameleons, so outside issues - like needing a coat, or a long walk to the car and back - aren't an issue for me. I guess I gravitate towards dresses because they're easy, but I'm trying my hand with skirts & tops to mix things up. That's not to say I'm not comfortable in skinny jeans, and I've been known to go a bit 'office smart' if we have someone professional come to see us.

Take care,
Lynn

6 comments:

  1. Interesting.

    My answers would be:

    What would you like to feel?
    Feminine, admired but respected.

    Does getting dressed form a key part of the night?
    Unless you’re off to the nudie party, it’s pretty important. OK, real answer: no, getting dressed is the means to an end. The key part of the night is meeting friends and enjoying oneself.

    Are there any pressures?
    It’s not so much the clothes as the peripherals: making sure my hair is tidy, my makeup done with care, epilation perfect and I haven’t inadvertently tucked my hem into my knickers. So actually getting the frock on is the easy bit.

    What do you do about deciding what to wear?
    The classic TGirl advice of wearing what suits the occasion. Do stand out, but only in the right way, i.e. don’t go to the ball in jeans, don’t go to the supermarket in a ballgown.

    Sue x

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    1. Ah, skirt in kickers. Not a great look, IMHO. :-)

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    2. I did actually do that once, leaving the loos in Costa in Central London. Not only did I then walk through the crowded coffee shop in that state but didn't notice till I was in the street outside. It's the kind of mistake you make once only! I always check carefully now. Sue x

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  2. Interesting questions!

    What would you like to feel when you're getting dressed to go out?
    Sexy, quirky, badass, and desirable

    Does getting dressed form a key part of the night?
    No. It's a necessary evil. If I could magically go from naked to dressed and made-up I would take it

    Are there any pressures when dressing up?
    Not appearing dumpy or frumpy. I want to show I'm genuinely trying to pass, even if I fail. And I would rather people questioned by fashion choices, than my gender. I'm OK with "What the fuck is she wearing?" (I was cosplaying as Black Canary last time that happened :D )

    What do you do about deciding what to wear? What does a look for different events - meal out, party night, visiting friends - look like?
    I try to match the event, but I only really have two looks - nerdy girl and hooker :D

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    1. Black Canary? Five points to Gryffindor! :-)

      BTW, could you do nerdy hooker? Asking for a friend. :-D

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